Because objectication of woman was the accepted standard when I was growing up--a standard my mother enforced with her constant critiques of women's bodies in front of me (my dad did not make such critiques in my presense if he made them at all)--it has taken me a very long time to undo decades of "training," I recieved from the culture and my mom.

After years of working to not do this, I have finally been able to get out of the habit of rating a woman's body and it has freed up all kinds of time for me--time that was spent judging people I didn't even know and judging myself.