In this day and age, if you get to be as old as this writer clearly is and you dont' have any friends of color, but you do have fond memories of a racist who throws alcohol parties for people who are underage, it says a lot about you, and almost none of it is good.

She will not be able to "be the change" until she can see she is "the problem."

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