This statement alone makes you the a-hole.

In your myriad calculations of what your wife owes you in life, you left out that in the past four years she has been pregnant 18 of those months, and for the last nine has been supervising three children under the age of five, two of whom are probably not potty trained.

And then there is you--her fourth child. The one who wants the house cleaned all the time, and, unlike the other three, does his own laundry.

You are the one not living up to your responsibilities. Grow up and act like a husband, not a petulant teenager who keeps having sex and making babies, but who wants none of the attendant responsibilities.